You Are the Parent. So – Be One!

This article is about a little girl who insisted she was a boy. The article says “Despite her room being painted pink and being dressed in girly outfits, her parents said she preferred masculine toys and activities.”

(As did many of us girls)

So, the parents “…cut off their infant’s long hair, bought new clothes and started referring to Ryland as a male…”

The child is now 6, but began this assertion at 12 months old. They began the ‘transition’ when she was a toddler. The video of the transition can be seen here, but I warn – it’s quite emotional to watch, regardless of where you stand on the issue.

My initial thoughts, while watching the video, were that you don’t allow your child’s assertions to dictate your life – or theirs. Your assertions should outweigh theirs, but it does occur to me that since I’ve never had to deal with that, it may not be that easy… Nothing is as a parent. But when your daughter insists that she is a boy – 50 times, you correct them 51.

Then the part about it being a phase and the parents saying “But phases end…” insinuating that hers didn’t. This is true, but when you constantly give in to the ‘phase’, allowing the wanting of boy toys and clothes to win out, you’re encouraging the phase and it’s either not going to end or it’s going to take a LOT longer to end…

And now that they have allowed her to stand in front of a crowd, announce it, receive an award for it and get accolades from a crowd because of the decision she made… It’s going to be a LOT harder for her to let go of the ‘phase’.

And my heart breaks for them when their child said “Why did God make me this way?”, but guess what…? ALL kids say that about something! My sons have said the exact thing about themselves in reference to different things about their personalities, likes, dislikes, etc. I used to ask why and cry ALL THE TIME over why God made me ‘fat’. I hated it. I didn’t think it was fair. I didn’t want to be fat! Which, I really wasn’t, but that’s a WHOLE other story…

If a child this young is able to assert that their ‘sex’ is something other than what their sex is – because in their minds they aren’t what they’re born as — and parents are encouraged to give way to the child that insists they ‘want’ to be the opposite sex…

Where does it this end? Where does parenting begin? When does it go from “Good parenting” for letting their child choose to “enabling” their child? Or bad parenting for not stepping in and offering correction?

Should parents put their children on a diet or get them surgery when they think they’re fat? Should a parent get contacts for the child who doesn’t like the color of their eyes? Or the child with Apotemnophilia? Should they have their child’s limb amputated?

Why is it good parenting to listen to the child on what sex they want to be, but bad parenting – enough so that you lose custody of your children – when you allow them to get a tattoo?

There are many who will say “I was a tomboy too!” or “I once insisted I was a boy/girl when I was little” or “My kid thought he was a turtle when he was little…” and I hear what you’re saying, but for me, personally – there is something FAR more problematic…

Let me explain.

We were all born in sin, shaped in iniquity, and came into the world speaking lies. (Psalm 51:5, Psalm 58:3) It’s why we are all born with a sin nature. Some of us struggle with lying. Some struggle with stealing, some struggle with addiction or addictive behavior. Some struggle with much harder things. Those who want to hurt others, murder, rape. There are those who struggle sexually, homosexuality, bestiality, pedophilia, etc.

In this nation, we, as a whole, have accepted homosexuality as an orientation one is born with or ‘as’ and not a lifestyle choice. Or, ‘God made me this way’ so we should be okay with it rather than viewing it as something that we must overcome. It’s one of those morally wrong things that – legally – is normal or okay. (There are others, but hang in there and travel with me in this thought process…)

can-of-wormsI’ve said – for a long time – that when we give way to “God made me this way, so it’s okay.” it opens up a huge can of worms because, soon, it’s going to be followed with other things one is born with, or ‘as’.

God made us all the same, aside from male and female. Anything else is what the Deceiver has burdened us with – that we must overcome. It’s much harder for some of us than others…

So, soon we are going to be faced with other things people are born ‘as’. (Maybe not in our lifetime, but it’s coming.) This is a huge problem because what follows closely after homosexuality is pedophilia.

If you think I’m exaggerating, I’m not. There are studies suggesting it is an orientation and movements fighting for them to be recognized and legalized as such.

The argument, from those who are pro-homosexuality, but -obviously- not okay with the pedophilia movement, is “But two consenting adults is not hurting anyone.” They insist that a child cannot consent to sexual contact or a sexual encounter and therefor, it can never be legal. This has always made sense to me, but still – there in the back of my mind – I’ve thought that somehow, some way, it’s going to come to the forefront of the fight and no longer be in the back alleys or the proverbial ‘bath houses’ as homosexuality was in the 80s.

So, then I come across the above mentioned article about the transgendered little girl and the video her parents made of ‘her’ conversion to ‘him’. My initial thoughts, mentioned above, gave way to something FAR more scary.

If a child is able to ‘consent’ to ‘becoming’ the opposite sex, what says they can’t ‘consent’ to ‘having’ sex?

If we’re supposed to give the child what they want when they say they want to be the opposite sex, what stops a pedophile from giving a child what they say they want – or – at least claiming that’s what they want…?

And what about 14, 15, or 16 year olds? Why do we not give them what they want? A 6 year old can insist she is a boy and, as parents, we’re commended for honoring her wishes by allowing her to become/live as a boy.  But when our 15 year old daughter insists she willingly had sex with her 20 year old boyfriend, we’re horrible parents for not having him arrested.

I don’t mean to make this sound glib. If I am, I apologize, but where do we draw the line?

As parents we are there to guide, shape and mold our children. We’re there to show them how to live, be, act and function in society. If we are women, we’re supposed to show our daughter what that means and men are supposed to show their sons. Women are also supposed to show their sons what womanhood means and vice versa for dads.

We’re not supposed to let our children always have their way. When we do, people say we spoil our children, or we’re bad parents. We’re supposed to know which things a child can decide and which they can’t. You pick your battles. The minor ones, you let go. The major ones, you hold your ground. It’s your job as the ADULT.

Once they are grown and leave your home, you hope – no pray –  you did your best, but THEN is when they get to decide. Until then, you decide for them – no matter how much they hate you. No matter how much they don’t understand why they’re burdened with whatever it is burdening them (this week). You stand your ground.

It’s your job. Period.

 

A Poem for Georgians (or any southern state, really)

A Georgia Poem
Bless this house, oh Lord we cry.
Please keep it cool in mid-July.
Bless the walls where termites dine,
While ants and roaches march in time.
Bless our yard where spiders pass
Fire ants’ castles in the grass.
Bless the garage, a home to please
Carpenter beetles, ticks and fleas.
Bless the love bugs, two by two,
The gnats and mosquitoes that feed on you.
Millions of creatures that fly or crawl,
In Georgia, Lord,
You’ve put them all.
But this is home, and here we’ll stay,
So, thank you, Lord, for insect spray!
~Anonymous

For those familiar with bug posts, this will make much more sense…

Gun Control Logic that … Actually Makes Sense

I never thought I would, but I have actually found some arguments for gun control that I can’t really deny. The reasons below actually make sense.

Why we need gun control and why it does/will work:

First, a few stats:

  • Banning guns works, which is why New York, DC, and Chicago have such low crime rates and the cops there need guns.
  • Washington DC’s murder rate of 69 per 100,000 is due to the strict gun control laws they have passed. Indianapolis’ murder rate of 9 per 100,000 is due to the lack of gun control laws they have passed.
  • The statistics that show high murder rates justify gun control, but statistics that show increasing murder rates after gun control are “just statistics.”
  • The Brady Bill and The Assault Weapons Ban both went into effect in 1994. They are the reason for the decrease in violent crime rates that have been on the decline since 1991.

Concerning the Constitution and the Bill of Rights:

  • The 2nd Amendment, ratified in 1791, refers to the National Guard, which was created by an act of Congress in 1917.
  • The National Guard is funded by the federal government, occupies property leased to the federal government, uses weapons owned by the federal government, punishes trespassers under federal law, and is a state militia.
  • The phrases,”right of the people peaceably to assemble,” – “right of the people to be secure in their homes,” – “enumeration’s herein of certain rights shall not be construed to disparage others retained by the people,” and “The powers not delegated herein are reserved to the states respectively, and to the people,” all refer to individuals. However, “the right of the people to keep and bear arms” refers to the state.
  • We don’t need guns against an oppressive government because the Constitution has internal safeguards. So we shouldn’t worry if the government bans and seizes all guns, thereby violating the 2nd, 4th, and 5th amendments to that Constitution and it’s safeguards.
  • Rifles and handguns aren’t necessary to national defense, which is why the army has millions of them.
  • The right of online pornographers to exist cannot be questioned because they are constitutionally protected by the Bill of Rights, but the use of handguns for self defense is not really protected by the Bill of Rights.
  • 556184_418587844892863_446650687_nFree speech entitles one to own newspapers, transmitters, computers, and typewriters, but the only thing one is entitled to in order to protect oneself is bare hands.
  • The ACLU is good because it uncompromisingly defends certain parts of the Constitution. The NRA is bad, because it defends other parts of the Constitution.

Guns are too complex and unsafe for the average Joe:

  • Guns are so complex that special training is necessary to use them properly, and so simple to use that they make murder easy.
  • A handgun, with up to 4 controls, is far too complex for the typical adult to learn to use, as opposed to an automobile that only has 20.
  • Women are just as intelligent and capable as men but a woman with a gun is “an accident waiting to happen”. Gun makers’ advertisements aimed at women are “preying on their fears.”
  • Private citizens shouldn’t have handguns, because they serve no military purpose. Private citizens shouldn’t have “assault rifles,” because they are military weapons.

Guns, though inanimate, have a lot of power:

  • Ordinary people in the presence of guns turn into slaughtering butchers and revert to normal when the weapon is removed.
  • Guns cause violence, which is why there are so many mass killings at gun shows.553930_442867905798190_1772182474_n
  • A self-loading small arm can legitimately be a “weapon of mass destruction” or an “assault weapon.”
  • The readily availability of guns today, with waiting periods, background checks, fingerprinting, government forms, etcetera, is responsible for recent school shootings. Compared to the lack of school shootings in the 40’s, 50’s and 60’s, which resulted from the availability of guns at hardware stores, surplus stores, gas stations, variety stores, mail order, etcetera.

Regarding city employees:

  • Police operate within groups and have back up, which is why they need larger capacity pistol magazines than do “civilians” who must face criminals alone and therefore need less ammunition.
  • Police officers, who qualify with their duty weapons once or twice a year, have some special Jedi-like mastery over handguns that private citizens can never hope to obtain.
  • 560053_421848401233474_1510023146_nWe need to keep fire extinguishers in our homes in case of fire, but do not need to keep a gun in case of a home invasion.
  • Private citizens don’t need a gun for self-protection because the police are there to protect them even though the Supreme Court says the police are not responsible for your protection.
  • Citizens don’t need to carry a gun for personal protection, but police chiefs -who are desk-bound administrators working in a building filled with cops- need to carry a gun.
  • “Assault weapons” have no purpose other than to kill large numbers of people. Which is why the police need them but “civilians” do not.
  • Trigger locks do not interfere with the ability to use a gun for defensive purposes. Which is why you see police officers with one on their duty weapon.

Gun Control  – Just. Makes. Sense.

  • Most people can’t be trusted. We should have laws against guns – which most people will abide by because people can be trusted.574681_421848174566830_325675679_n
  • We must get rid of guns because a deranged lunatic may go on a shooting spree at any time. Anyone who would own a gun out of fear of such a lunatic is paranoid.
  • We should ban “Saturday Night Specials” and other inexpensive guns because it’s not fair that poor people have access to guns too.
  • The majority of Americans want more gun control, just like the majority of Americans wanted slavery.

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Once gun laws are enacted, you don’t have to become a victim:71768_421848321233482_136167557_n

  • The more helpless you are, the safer you are from criminals.
  • In case of hom invasion, an intruder will be incapacitated by tear gas or oven spray. But an intruder shot with a .357 Magnum will get angry and kill you.
  • Handgun Control Inc. Chairman Pete Shields say that when you are confronted by violent criminals, you should “put up no defense and give them what they want, …or run.”

The experts confirm all of this:

  • The New England Journal of Medicine is filled with expert advice about guns; just like Guns and Ammo has some excellent articles on heart surgery.
  • You should consult an automotive engineer for safer gun controlseat belts, a civil engineer for a better bridge, a surgeon for spinal paralysis and Diane Feinstein or Rosie O’Donnell for firearms expertise.
  • Charlton Heston, when president of the NRA, was a shill who should be ignored. Michael Douglas as a representative of Handgun Control, Inc. is an ambassador for peace who is entitled to an audience at the UN arms control summit.
  • The NRA’s attempt to run a “don’t touch” campaign about kids handling guns is propaganda, and the anti-gun lobby’s attempt to run a “don’t touch” campaign is responsible social activity.

When government officials and anti-gun groups say they want to “Keep guns out of the wrong hands” they don’t mean you.

No, really…

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American by birth, Southern by the Grace of God