Should I or Shouldn’t I?

Often times, since starting *Clean* Funny Pics, I get messages, emails, comments, etc from people for all sorts of things. Hate mail, love mail, thank you mail, advice mail… All sorts.

Sometimes people message asking if I think it’s okay that they do this, that or the other. While it is flattering that one values my opinion – I am no one. I don’t matter. No, of course I don’t mean I don’t matter to anyone or God – of course I do. What I mean is – when it comes to you and God, my opinions don’t matter. Nor do the opinions of your friends. Only God’s opinion matters.  

Recently, a young lady wrote me asking if I thought it was wrong for her, as a Christian, to follow and participate on a particular Facebook page because a ‘friend’ of hers had called her on it – in a public manner – accusing her of not being a Christian.

 

What follows is what I told her…

What I think about a person’s Christianity – yours or anyone’s – is of no consequence. I do not say who I do or don’t think is a good Christian or otherwise. I look at a person’s fruits and decide for myself whether or not to place much stock into what they’re saying. It doesn’t mean, however, that I’m going to verbally spank them with my decision. Which means I can’t –won’t- say whether or not I think following [the Facebook Page in question] means you are or aren’t a good Christian.

I know that’s not what you wanted to hear, so, I’ll just leave you with this…

What you do or don’t do.
What you follow or don’t follow.
What you comment on or don’t comment on.

Those things are between you and God. You and God and no one else.

I have a little ‘rule’ that I use for such a situation. Someone shared it with my a couple years ago and it was – and is – the best advice I was ever given. (Honestly, I wish someone had given it to me 20+ years ago – before I was a Christian, because if they had, I would have avoided a lot of problems in my life. Problems that, looking back, were self inflicted.)

In everything you do –
In all walks of life from now until the day you die –
Whether you are a Christian, Agnostic or Atheist –
This is a fantastic rule to live by…

Does Daddy care if I put baloney in the DVD player?

If you find you’re asking yourself, or someone else, whether or not you should do something – the answer is always, always, always – “No”

In keeping with the example of whether or not you should like [Facebook page]… If, at the time you liked it, you never questioned if you should or shouldn’t like the page, then what your friend says and thinks is of little consequence – no consequence, actually.

However, if, at the time you liked it, you found yourself wondering “Should I like this page?” – then maybe liking it is something to think about. If you find that the only reason you’re asking “Was I wrong to like this page?” is because of your friend’s words – Then why worry about it?

If you do something that doesn’t cause you to ask that question before you do it and someone then takes issue with whatever it was you did… Psh. That doesn’t amount to a hill of beans.

It’s why the rules for *Clean* Funny Pics state “If I posted it, then it’s clean”. It’s in there like that because for any picture I find myself asking “Should I post this?” – I don’t post it.

Most of the things I find, that are funny to me, I post them on *Clean* Funny Pics without much thought. I just post them. But if I hesitate before posting one… If I question whether or not I should post it… Even if it’s only for second… Even if I don’t consciously know why I hesitated…

I. Don’t. Post. It.

Period.

(It’s also why I’ll defend a post to the degree I do when someone calls it into question.)

So, what I’m saying is… The answer to the question of whether or not liking [Facebook page] is right or wrong is within you and has been all along…

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True Story

It’s the breed. It’s the owner. It’s a problem.

Since the late 80s, people have been going back and forth about the pit bull dog breed. It’s a bad breed. It’s not a bad breed. Pits are evil. Pit’s aren’t evil – the owners are.

I never really thought much about it one way or the other. They’re beautiful dogs to look at and I’ve been around many that were just sweet as they could be – kept them even. I’ve also seen some that scared me to death. So when happening upon Facebook pages or posts about the breed and whatnot, I kinda judged on a case by case basis.

Then ‘Mickey the Killer Dog’ mauled the entire right side of a 4 year old’s face. I saw a few posts about it and refused to read them because I knew it would make me mad. I ignored blog posts, videos, stories, anything and everything having to do with the case because I knew the animal rights cuckoo birds were in full throttle.

I knew because I have been at the receiving end of their hatred. Hatred for anyone who chooses a person over an animal. For several weeks, I was harassed via FB, email and snail mail for posting a picture that some thought LOOKED like abuse. A small side note here… I have never posted anything that shows animal abuse – unless it was to show how wrong it is. No picture I have ever posted has animal abuse in it. For 2 years after the picture posted I was still harassed through the mail. So, I avoided the Mickey story completely.

Last Wednesday, while waiting in the doctor’s office, the “Mickey” story came on the TV in the waiting room. Of course I was just absolutely disheartened to hear about it all, but I flipped my lid when I heard not only that the dog had an attorney, but the attorney (who is the epitome of every lawyer joke in existence) referred to Mickey as a “poor, innocent dog.”

WHAT THE HECK?!

I don’t care what side of the fence you’re on when it comes to euthanizing or not euthanizing it, the dog’s not innocent.

"You don't punish the victim, you don't punish Kevin for taking the bone, and you don't punish the animal that was minding its own business," said Kimberly Rosenberg.
“You don’t punish the victim, you don’t punish Kevin for taking the bone, and you don’t punish the animal that was minding its own business,” said Kimberly Rosenberg.

I *really* got drawn into the drama when I saw the love and outpouring for the dog was FAR more than the child. Support, love and a claim of ‘innocence’ for a dog that could do this to a kid – fault or no fault on the kid’s part. It disgusted me that ANYONE could defend a dog ripping off the entire right side of a child’s face, much less fight to get him freed.

Flabbergasted.
Astounded.
Disheartened.

It’s absolutely disgusting. But… I digress. (How much these ‘people’ disgust me has already been addressed. The comments on the story are astounding! Sorry, but the whole thing still discourages me that the human condition finds fault with a kid…)

So, because of all that – I started having people send me links and information and things about dog related deaths and breeds and so on. I was asked what I thought about pits, what I thought about BSL, and all sorts of things.

I have done a lot of reading, I have searched my feelings, I have thought about analogies I’ve used, how I’ve said for so long that it’s not the gun’s fault – it’s the person who hold the gun and tried to apply that same thought to these dogs. I’ve read statistics, I’ve seen what the experts say, etc.

I wanted to be fair. I didn’t want to jump on the bandwagon and hate a breed. I don’t want to hate pit bulls because some have killed anymore than I want to hate a specific race or group of people because they’ve killed.

The problem I’m having reconciling is one small fact that is really kind of huge.

In the United States, there were 32 dog bite-related fatalities in 2013. Of those 32 deaths, 25(78%) were caused by pit bulls.

That’s pretty alarming, but I was still on the fence until I learned that pit bulls make up only 6% of the entire dog population.

 

Yet, people insistently, intently (and angrily), state it’s the owner – not the breed.

Okay, well then… there’s still a problem. A problem that’s being ignored. Why are so many pit bulls going to bad owners? Why do so many bad owners want and have pits?

“It’s the breed”/”Its’ the owner”

It doesn’t really matter. Either way, — it’s a problem.

Mia, who would have been 5 next week, was killed by the family dog.
Mia, who would have been 5 next week, was killed by the family dog.

On Wednesday, a 4 year old girl – Mia, was killed by the family pit bull. It belonged to her mother’s boyfriend, who lived with them.

Nancy Grace was a bit vocal about it and shared a link to her broadcast on her Facebook page. She upset a lot of people and they were quite vocal in saying so.

 

 

 

The following are comments from the post Nancy Grace shared

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And then, if you quote facts and sources, you get:

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The ones on the Save Mickey page are even more disturbing…

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Time to neuter, defang and rehabilitate those who support the dog mauling a child.
Time to neuter, defang and rehabilitate those who support the dog mauling a child.

 

It gets even more twisted. These comments are in response to this cartoon (on left) that Arizona Republic printed.
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The more and more I interact with and read the things animal cuckoo birds and pit owners say…  The more and more I agree with them.

It’s the owners. Not the breed. CLEARLY it’s the owners breeding hate.

***Side note: It is no secret that I have little respect or tolerance for grammar correctors. It is why I do not point out grammatical errors on the internet. However, it doesn’t mean I am not grammar conscious. I am. I can’t help but notice the horrid grammar and spelling that accompanies the hatred and it troubles me. Is the grammar bad because they’re so angry or is it something more? *shrug* Hmmmm…

And there are those that continually post pictures of their dogs with children with captions of how safe their dog is. And they’re absolutely correct. The pictures are perfect examples of how safe their child is around their dog(s) — Until they aren’t.

10168110_750119478354349_1767307856_nThis is a picture of Mia with Niko. She is happy, perfectly safe and in good company with the dog. He was harmless and loving —Until Wednesday night when he turned and killed her.

And now, they’re both dead. Both paid for another person’s ignorance – with their lives.

 

Is it the breed? I don’t know.
Is it the owner? I don’t know.

What I do know is —there’s a problem.

These people that put the lives of animals before human life are disturbing. They’re sick. And they’re scary because they think this way. It’s …. Well, I don’t know —Perverse.

I’m spent, tired, and wrought with emotion thinking about them and their skewed beliefs. I just can’t do it anymore.

 

So, for now – and I hope ever, I am moving on. No, I’m moving away – and separating myself from this subject. The callousness of this breed, meaning the animal rights cuckoo birds breed, – is too much for me to comprehend. I have too much compassion for the lives of my fellow man and the innocence of children to tolerate them any longer. I just pray that they never have to choose between an animal and their child. Their animal and their child. Their animal and the child of a friend or loved one.

May God have mercy on us all.
Especially those who value animals over man.

Handbasket Travel

This last week has been banner. I don’t think I’ve ever lost this much hope in humanity in such a short time. The lack of respect is just … overwhelming.

Teenage hyper-correctors feeling it is their right, no – their duty – to correct a person’s grammar… The value of a dog’s life more important than that of a child’s… A child, arguing with his mother over a cupcake – referring to her by her first name and calling her ‘honey’…

Does no one teach a child to respect adults – or people in general –  these days?

And when I say I’ve lost hope in humanity, it doesn’t mean that ALL my hope was placed in humanity and it doesn’t mean that my faith is in humanity. It means that the hope I had for humanity is gone. It’s separate from my hope and faith in Christ…

We are in a hand basket and people are still wondering why – when the answer is plain and simple, but it’s been coming on for awhile.

It started long ago, but I’m not sure when it tanked this bad.

I won’t discuss, for the umpteenth time, my disgust at the number of people who want to save Mickey the killer dog. Although I could fill several blog posts on the topic because everyday I learn something new about the story that equally disgusts me. Displacing the blame is one thing, saying the dog is innocent is another. Last time I checked, when someone who has suffered abuse attempts to murder someone they’re still punished and not let go because they were abused. Making that same excuse for a dog is reprehensible. But, I digress…

And I’ll spare another dissertation on my distaste for Grammar Snotsies. I just can’t understand why a teenager thinks it’s appropriate for them to correct an adult. Especially when some are encouraged, by parents, to do it.

Someone shared this video of a little boy trying to convince his mother why he should be allowed to eat a cupcake at Grandma’s house. The kid is absolutely adorable and clearly very smart, but the simple fact that he was debating with her after she told him no is disturbing. Not only is he allowed to talk back, he’s allowed to go on about it for several minutes. Almost encouraged to do it at times. Once he was told no, he may have cried, gotten mad, whatever, but in my opinion, he shouldn’t have been allowed to debate it.

But that’s not even the bad part. The bad part is the fact that the kid was then rewarded with a trip to the Ellen Degeneres show where he was then given 100s of cupcakes. Then the mom was given a weekend at the spa and a $10,000 check.

And even that’s not the part that is the most disgusting. The thing that is beyond my capability of understanding is how it’s going viral all over the place as this awesome thing. People just think it’s great and I’m in the minority because I think it’s abuse.

Yes, that’s right. Abuse.

What are we teaching the kid? What are we teaching the mother? What are we teaching other kids? Other moms? Video tape your kid’s bad behavior and if it gets enough attention, you can go on Ellen and get money.

Respect isn’t taught anymore. The mother said she recorded it and posted it on Youtube just for family and it wasn’t her intent for it to go viral. Maybe it wasn’t. It probably wasn’t, but I think she’s missing the point. I would have never recorded my son’s bad behavior and shared with anyone, much less – my family.

I really hope she hangs onto that money. One day she’s going to need it to post bail for that kid when he argues with a cop who is about to give him a ticket.

I remember, when I was in high school/college, my dad saying how my generation wasn’t respectful and were this, that or the other. He was right, we weren’t nearly as respectful to authority as his generation was, and they weren’t as respectful as his parent’s generation was. It seems to have gotten worse and worse with each generation.

Don’t get me wrong, there are many in every mentioned generation that are taught respect – but far less than there once was. What I couldn’t ever understand is who dropped the ball… My generation wasn’t respectful or goal oriented – but his generation raised mine… So, did they fail to teach it or did they fail to enforce it? Or was my generation just overly rebellious?

And now, the current generation’s lack of respect comes from somewhere too. The bad thing, now, is that not only does youth push the boundaries, they’ve got the support of millions when they do it. The internet backs them up or enjoys it so things go viral.

So, what do I do? I over-shelter my kids when it comes to the net and television. What’s funny is that in all other matters I don’t shelter and I’m not over-protective.

My kids go out and behave like kids do – running, playing, climbing – and they get hurt. Big deal. I don’t worry about that. Bruises happen, bones break, all those things heal. Bruising or breaking my child’s psyche or innocence never completely heal, if at all. And I have relatives who are very judgmental about it.

Relatives have children the same age as mine – and younger – who are on the internet, have iPods, iPads, laptops and even their own smart phones. The only reason both my kids have a 3DS is because they saved up their money and bought them for themselves. And even then, if I’d not been okay with it – I wouldn’t have allowed it.

Believe me, I know that doesn’t teach respect. We do that here in other ways. But what it doesn’t do is teach them how to disrespect. Or how to disrespect and get rewarded for it…

If this rate of decline continues, I can’t imagine what’s in store for us in the next few years…